We live in the atmosphere of ‘ time after time.’
Time after time, humankind has faced the same problems, applying the same solutions. One generation passes and another comes.
The wisest man in the universe made this statement, “there is no new thing under the sun.”
Ecclesiastes 1:9 “The thing that has been, is the thing which will be; and that which is done is that which will be done: and there is no new thing under the sun.”
If we don’t get the real point behind his statement, we will be like ‘hamsters on a wheel,’ operating in useless effort.
God is eternal. He has a plan for our lives. His plan is better than life.
I experienced this frustration when I was in my thirties. I looked at what I know now, was a beautiful life, and compared it to the ‘ worlds view of success.’
I found it lacking. It cost me some things that I will never get back. In the worldly view two wonderful sons, and a great husband wasn’t enough. I wanted to make my mark.
Now reading back in my journals, I want to coach my 30 year old self. I want to talk to her!
If she could know then, what I know now, she would enjoy her present life more. I would say continue with, ” Do your best, God will do the rest.”
I would tell her, ” adversity is good for you. Don’t shoo it away, like a stray cat. Don’t feed it, it will leave when the time comes.”
I would tell her to stop criticizing herself and others. Stop comparing herself or her family to other families.
It wasn’t just me.
I would encourage my 32 husband that he was a great success already! He was a great father. A great provider.
Don’t read me wrong. I believe things turned for our good. I’m only regretting not enjoying the process more.
I would tell him not to buy into the lie that said, ” if you are not successful by age thirty, you will never be successful.”
Looking back now, somethings were a real struggle. We didn’t have any real mentors to get truthful with us.
Or maybe we did, we just didn’t pay attention. We didn’t recognize the truth.
What “they,” said was speaking so loud, we didn’t hear what God already said.
Who were ‘they?’ Who are ‘they,’ now?
I really want to encourage someone today. Listen to God. Read his word and obey his word. If you do that you will be a success.
I will tell you this; If I read the words of my creator every single day, I will be saved from self-doubt, insecurity, and intimidation.
Maybe I wouldn’t have done things to differently concerning my career. I’m glad my husband focused on being a business owner.
I do believe though, I could have experienced more serenity in my life.
I would not have wasted useless effort trying to discover something I already had.
Daily we must realign our lives to truth.
At age thirty, we were just getting started in life. At 30, I had already been married for 14 years. That in itself was a success!
My husband did establish his business, when he was 33 years old. He is a success today, because he never gave up.We made mistakes but we repented.
We realigned ourselves to the word of God. We know there is nothing new under the sun that he did not create. There is no solution other than the solution he created.
The good news for believers is that Gods word is eternal. It’s for every generation and for every time. God’s word never returns void, but always accomplishes what he send it out to do.
Success needs to be redefined based on His word.
Look at Joshua 1:8 (paraphrased) Meditation on the word day and night and you will be a good success.
Successful is doing the best you can do in life. It’s being the best you can be. Loving who you are, and what you do. Loving your family.
If you don’t have a family yet, then it’s the time to look around and see who your real family happens to be, and love them!
Thirty is not the time to dig up everything you planted. It is a time to dig in and plant your feet. No starting over.
Goodness, I wish I knew then, what I know now!
I would have focused on relationship over anything else. It has a order for it to experience true success.
God first, family second. Spouse first, children, and then immediate family.
The family that prays together, stays together. I believe this with all my being.
After that: The family that plays together stays together.
Though it might not appear my family is successful as others define successful, make no mistake, we are successful in God’s ‘eyes.’
We are not aiming for perfect. Our goal is eternity.
With the goal of eternity in mind, I do not have to strive for it. I already have the promise of life eternal. The New Covenant assures me of that.
I am successful. There is nothing under the sun, that can move me any closer to ‘already there.’
We have got to get this. I didn’t deserve my salvation. I was still a sinner, when he died for me.
I accepted the truth of that at age 18. Nothing changed, when I walked off the path and got lost in the wilderness. Nothing changed when time after time nothing new under the sun, was lost in my understanding. I rambled around trying to find the one thing that would make me stand out in the world. Now, I laugh at my 30 year old self. I had what counted the most.
A great savior. His established plan. His love is better than life.
A wonderful unperfect husband. 2 rambunctious, unperfected sons.
A imperfect, down to earth pastor and church family.
I am blessed!